• When should children be allowed to have mobile devices?
• When should discussions of bullying take place?
• When will children be responsible enough to surf the Internet on their own?
• When should a parent talk to their children about depression and suicide?
In our fast-paced world consisting of ever-changing technology and evolving social norms, parents are finding the traditional challenges of raising well-adjusted, self-confident and socially responsible children ever more difficult. As parents, we struggle with when to grant certain permissions and when to have difficult conversations. We often avoid such decisions, waiting until an external event forces the conversation or too many kids at school have been granted the same permission. To meet these challenges, parents need a framework that can adjust to the development needs of each child, the values of each community and the means of each family. The Birthday Rules provides that framework.
The Birthday Rules provides a fun and flexible framework of an annual review process combined with a structure for increasing permissions, responsibilities and conversations. We suggest using a child’s birthday as not only a time to celebrate, but also as an excellent opportunity to have important conversations, grant desired permissions and explain the responsibilities that go along with those permissions.
The Birthday Rules offers a structure to help with one of the most important tasks parents have—creating a safe environment to communicate and demonstrate unconditional love.
"In creating a fun and flexible framework, Jeff has given parents a powerful tool to aid in the raising of children in a fast paced technology-enabled world."
– Dr. Susan Samuels, Director of Child/Adolescent Psychiatry New York Presbyterian Hospital/Cornell Medical
"By distilling down much of the research on child development in one place, Jeff and Dr. Marsh have helped parents with a guidepost of what age different permission and conversation could occur."
– Anne Marie Albano, PHD, ABPP, Director, Columbia University Clinic for Anxiety and Related Disorders and Co-Clinical Director, Youth Anxiety Center
"It's amazing that it has taken this long for someone to use all the HR learning we spend billions on and apply it to the most important human relations / relationship project we ever take on, raising our children."
– Cindy Lubitz, Former VP staffing at Coca-Cola and Senior Director at Home Depot
"Raising kids today is more challenging than ever. The Birthday Rules uses the power of HR Frameworks to help raise well-adjusted kids."
– Doug Desimone, Director of Talent at Yahoo
"HR processes are designed to deal with fast-paced environments, nothing is more fast-paced than raising children! This book is amazing."