What No One Tells You

A Guide to Your Emotions from Pregnancy to Motherhood

What No One Tells You

Your guide to the emotions of pregnancy and early motherhood, from two of America’s top reproductive psychiatrists.

With a combined thirty years of counseling new and expectant mothers, Dr. Sacks and Dr. Birndorf have seen firsthand how the pressure to be perfect, and perfectly happy, leaves women feeling confused and even ashamed of the emotions that can bubble up during pregnancy. Now, in What No One Tells You, the two psychiatrists show why it’s natural for “matrescence”—the birth of a mother—to be as stressful and transformative a period as adolescence.

From the swirl of trepidation and joy of seeing that plus sign, to the complexities of bonding with a tiny and mighty newborn human, Drs. Sacks and Birndorf provide a roadmap for mothers-to-be, detailing the emotions (both positive and negative) that can develop, explaining the psychological backstory as to why, and offering women a practical guide for managing the ups and downs of this exciting, exhausting time.

After years of hearing their patients say, “But how come no one told me?” Drs. Birndorf and Sacks are ready to share their secrets with the world.
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9781501112560 Trade Paperback $17.00 Simon & Schuster April 23, 2019
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About the Authors

Alexandra Sacks

Alexandra Sacks, MD, is a Women’s Mental Health Psychiatrist affiliated with the Columbia University Psychoanalytic Center for Training and Research and the Columbia Women’s Program. A regular contributor to the New York Times, her article “The Birth of a Mother” was the #1 most read piece of 2017 for the paper’s “Well Family” section, and inspired “The Goddess Myth,” a Time cover story. Her work to popularize the term “matrescence” has been covered by NPR, New York Magazine, Allure, and Elle; her matrescence TED talk will be published this year through the TED Residency. She is the author, with Catherine Birndorf, of What No One Tells You.


Catherine Birndorf

Catherine Birndorf, MD, is a Clinical Associate Professor of Psychiatry and founding director of the Payne Whitney Women’s Program at New York Presbyterian Hospital. Dr. Birndorf was formerly a mental health columnist for Self and has appeared on television programs, including The Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS Evening News, and CNN. Dr. Birndorf is the co-founder of The Motherhood Center, a perinatal mental health center for new and expecting mothers. She is the author, with Alexandra Sacks, of What No One Tells You.