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Margaret shares her secrets and her spirituality in this iconic Judy Blume novel, beloved by millions, that now has a fresh new look.

Margaret Simon, almost twelve, likes long hair, tuna fish, the smell of rain, and things that are pink. She’s just moved from New York City to Farbook, New Jersey, and is anxious to fit in with her new friends—Nancy, Gretchen, and Janie. When they form a secret club to talk about private subjects like boys, bras, and getting their first periods, Margaret is happy to belong.

But none of them can believe Margaret doesn’t have religion, and that she isn’t going to the Y or the Jewish Community Center. What they don’t know is Margaret has her own very special relationship with God. She can talk to God about everything—family, friends, even Moose Freed, her secret crush.

Margaret is funny and real, and her thoughts and feelings are oh-so-relatable—you’ll feel like she’s talking right to you, sharing her secrets with a friend.

A Reading Group Guide to

Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret

By Judy Blume

About the Book

“Are you there God? It’s me, Margaret. We’re moving today. I’m so scared God. I’ve never lived anywhere but here. Suppose I hate my new school? Suppose everybody there hates me? Please help me God.” These opening words of this modern classic have reassured many readers over the years. Even though Margaret’s parents aren’t religious, she hopes God will help her adjust to the move from New York City to a New Jersey suburb, as well as answer her many questions: Will she get her period soon? Will she start filling out her new bra? And, most of all, how can she succeed at being normal?

Discussion Questions

1. Describe Margaret’s personality. What are her strengths? What do the thoughts and feelings she expresses to God tell you about her? Give specific examples from the text. What are some of the things she learns over the course of the book?

2. How does the move from New York to New Jersey change Margaret’s life? What is different for her in New Jersey? What will she miss about New York? What is she worried about when the book opens? Have you ever had to move or change schools? If so, what was that experience like?

3. Why do you think Margaret is so interested in religion? Why does she talk to God, even though her parents don’t practice a religion? Why does she choose to do her school project on religions, and how does she go about it? Why does she look only at Judaism and Christianity?

4. Margaret emphasizes her desire to be “normal” over and over again. For example, she tells God, “I just want to be normal.” Later she says, “I will wait to find out from you if I am normal or not.” Why do you think she feels this desire so strongly? What do you think she learns about being normal? How does society tend to define normal? How do you define normal?

5. What is Margaret’s mother like? How does she like to spend her time? What is her family history? Name some instances in which she’s helpful to Margaret. When do the two of them disagree? How do they handle the situation when they do?

6. Margaret’s father is initially excited about mowing the lawn. Why does he feel that way? Why does that change? What is his relationship with Margaret like? Give examples from the text. What conflicts does he have with Margaret’s mother, and how does that impact Margaret?

7. In what ways do Margaret’s parents play stereotypical gender roles? How do Margaret and her friends buy into these stereotypes about how girls should act and look? How and why do some of the boys at school emphasize stereotypical expectations about female bodies? Do you think these stereotypes still exist now? Do you see them in your life and school? Explain your answers.

8. Grandma is a key figure in Margaret’s life. Describe their relationship and why Margaret likes being with her grandmother. How does Margaret feel about visiting her? Talk about Margaret’s time at her grandmother’s temple. What is her grandmother’s attitude toward Margaret and religion? How does Margaret react?

9. How do Margaret’s parents feel about Grandma? Why are they surprised when she first shows up in New Jersey? In that scene, explain why Margaret says, “This was fun!” when she sees her parents’ reaction. What kind of information can you glean from witnessing family dynamics?

10. Nancy has a strong personality. How does she welcome Margaret to the neighborhood? Why does she start a club, and what does it entail? Why does Margaret say, “Nancy had a great way of making me feel like a dope”?

11. When does Nancy lie, and why does she do it? How does Margaret find out about the lie? How does she react to it? Have you ever gotten caught in a lie? What did you learn from the situation?

12. Why is it so important to the girls to get their periods sooner rather than later? Why do Margaret and Janie buy bras?

13. Nancy is especially harsh when it comes to Laura Danker. Why do you think that is? What does she say about Laura? Why do the girls envy Laura? Describe Margaret’s encounter with Laura in the library, and what Margaret learns from it.

14. Why does Margaret believe Nancy when she says Laura meets Evan and Moose behind the A&P? Why does she confront Moose about it? How does she feel about him? He tells her, “‘Next time, don’t believe it unless you see it!’” What does he mean by that? Do you think this experience changes how Margaret feels about Nancy?

15. Talk about Mr. Benedict and whether you think he’s an effective teacher. Explain your answers. How do you think he figures out the names to put on the social studies test? How do you think he reacts to Margaret’s letter about religion?

16. Before Margaret’s Ohio grandparents announced their visit, Margaret expected to go to Florida. How does Margaret feel when her mother cancels the trip? Why does her mother make Margaret explain it to Grandma? Discuss the decisions that Margaret’s mother made and their effect on Margaret. How could Margaret or her mother have handled the situation differently?

17. Why is there so much tension around the Ohio grandparents’ visit? Why haven’t they visited in fourteen years? How does Margaret’s mother prepare for their visit? How does Margaret’s father feel about Margaret’s grandparents and their pending arrival?

18. Why does Grandmother Hutchins insist that Margaret is a Christian? Why does she care? How does that assertion make her appear similar to Margaret’s other grandmother? How are the two different? Why do the Ohio grandparents shorten their visit with Margaret’s family?

Extension Activities

Dear Margaret . . .

Ask students to choose three of Margaret’s one-sided conversations with God, including one that has to do with her desire to be “normal.” Have students write responses to Margaret from the point of view of a friend. The writing should respond to what Margaret says, incorporate what’s been happening in her life, and offer advice.

Tell Me More

Margaret has a hard time filling out the questionnaire that Mr. Benedict assigns when trying to get to know his students. Invite students to come up with a questionnaire with at least eight new questions that they think would be useful for learning about their classmates. Have students exchange and fill out the questionnaires. Then lead a class discussion on the effectiveness of the experience.

Q&A with Mr. Benedict

What does Mr. Benedict think about his class by the end of the year? Have students work in pairs to write five questions to ask Mr. Benedict about what he learned during the school year and his opinion on specific students, including Margaret. The students should also write the answers that he might give. Then ask each pair to perform the interview in front of fellow students.

Explore World Religions

Margaret explores Judaism and several types of Christianity because she knows people who practice those religions. Invite students to choose one of the world religions that she doesn’t explore, and prepare a multimedia report using print and digital resources. If students can interview someone who practices the religion, have them integrate information from the interview into the presentation. You can provide this list of world religions: Bahá'í Faith, Buddhism, Confucianism, Hinduism, Islam, Jainism, Shinto, Sikhism, Taoism, and Zoroastrianism.

Put It in Pictures

Many modern classics have been converted into graphic novels. Ask students to choose a scene in the story and put it in graphic novel format, using frames, pictures, text, captions, speech bubbles, thought balloons, and so on. If they aren’t familiar with the format, have students consult graphic novels for ideas on how to incorporate dialogue, setting, emotion, and other techniques. Have students share their scenes.

Guide written by Kathleen Odean, a former school librarian and Chair of the 2002 Newbery Award committee. She gives professional development workshops on books for young people and is the author of Great Books for Girls and Great Books about Things Kids Love

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Judy Blume, one of America’s most popular authors, is the recipient of the 2004 National Book Foundation Medal for Distinguished Contribution to American Letters. She is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of beloved books for young people, including Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret (which celebrated fifty years in 2020), and novels for adult readers, including Wifey, Summer Sisters, and In the Unlikely Event. Her work has been translated into thirty-two languages.Visit Judy at JudyBlume.com or follow her on Twitter at @JudyBlume.

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