About The Book

Part memoir, part timely cultural criticism, Eyal Cohen's Take the L explores love, fear, and modern masculinity, lending his witty and candid voice to the growing dialogue on young men’s mental health.

For fans of Jared Yates Sexton and Jia Tolentino, Take the L by Eyal Cohen is an unflinchingly honest exploration of what happens when a young man dares to love deeply for the first time. Told through lyrical vignettes set in the chaos and charm of New York City, Cohen unpacks his relationship with the elusive “L” while unraveling the silent conditioning that teaches men to fear vulnerability, mistrust intimacy, and retreat from emotional risk.

This book speaks directly to young men standing at the intersection of relationship and individuation—those trying to navigate connection in a world that rarely gives them the tools to do so. Cohen doesn’t just tell a love story; he cracks open the emotional armor so many men wear, offering language, reflection, and validation in a voice that feels like a friend, not a therapist.

For readers hungry to understand the emotional terrain of modern masculinity, Take the L: How Men Understand, Withhold, and Express Their Love joins the urgent cultural conversation around men’s mental health and emotional literacy. It’s a book that invites men to feel more, say more, and show up, and bring those close to them along for the ride.

Excerpt

Far before sex becomes a threshold (be it for masculinity or within a relationship), a simple kiss is one. We’ve all, I’m sure, at some point, encountered that hesitancy of should I kiss them or not. I’ve certainly found myself in such moments while walking someone home, standing a half-lean away from them outside their building, or sitting alongside them with our bodies parallel but our necks straining to face each other. In those moments, the festering, cyclical thoughts about what will transpire next preoccupy my brain to the point where I feel dissociated and absent from the here and now.

At the end of this first night, when I sit at the foot of L’s bed having just spent close to half an hour at a kitchen island seamlessly chatting with her roommate as if we’d long been acquainted, nothing feels uncertain. It’s inevitable that we’ll kiss. It’s a concoction of affirmation, appeasement, serenity, and eagerness. It’s exactly where I’m supposed to be and who I’m supposed to be with, and despite knowing how perfect the next moment will be, I’m in no rush to leave the here and now—when she’s already fluent in my sarcasm and I’m already fluent in her smile. Regardless of how highly valued a commodity physical contact may be, being an arm’s length from her, in a room dimly lit by streetlights peering through curtains, our smirks indicating we’re sharing a wavelength, is equally as immaculate, satisfying.

It’s as if there’s a bottomless well of words and jokes next to me at the edge of this bed, and I can subsist on them, and with her, for the rest of my days. It’s both a power trip and a fall into submission. Total control and absolute fragility. It’s like being both a resistible force and a movable object: a cat and a mouse, the pretzel and the feta. Whatever cliché you want to use. I could never speak for her, but I hope L feels the same way.

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Product Details

  • Publisher: Sentient Publications (August 5, 2025)
  • Length: 225 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781591813446

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Raves and Reviews

"A lively, frank and inventive rumination, experimental in the best sense.If you've ever wondered what goes on in the mind of an intelligent, sex-obsessed, bookish young man of today's generation who is trying to figure out the meaning of love, this is the ideal place to start."

– Philip Lopate

"With remarkable wit and intensity, Take the L cracks open the soft center of the masculine soul. In this era of accelerated romantic connections and breakups, here is a story of how love can transform one’s perception of the entire world. Take the L got under my skin and opened my mind. A wholly original and necessary read."

– Wendy Walters

"A whip-smart series of awkwardly hilarious, earnest and insightful essays about love, masculinity, youth, age, and the search for meaning, Eyal Cohen's TAKE THE L strikes at the heart with a subtlety that's hard to pull off."

– Jinwoo Chong

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